Relational Gestalt Practice

The focus of Gestalt work is on what is happening now—the process—rather than on what is being discussed, which is the content. It emphasizes awareness of what is being thought, felt, and experienced in the moment. Gestalt practice is the act of coming into present-centered awareness, noticing what I am experiencing here and now.

The intention of this practice is to cultivate the capacity to respond to life rather than simply react to it. When I am present, I feel grounded and centered. From that ground, I recognize that I have choice—that I can respond consciously to the situations, people, and events that I encounter.

Of course, we all need to plan, and it is helpful to remember the past. Yet, if I spend a lot of my time planning ahead or living in memory, I miss the moment itself—and much of life passes by without being fully lived or experienced.

Present-centered awareness allows me to notice my automatic reactions and to pause long enough to access deeper feelings or beliefs about a situation. By cultivating this awareness, I become more attuned to subtle shifts in my body and emotions—sources of valuable information about what I truly feel and what I may need in the moment

The practice of being present is simple, but not easy. We call it a practice because that is what it requires—returning to the moment repeatedly whenever I notice that I have drifted away.

It’s a question of balance. I need to plan for my life, and many memories are precious to me—while some parts of my history I would rather not repeat. Coming into the present moment helps me feel connection and balance within myself. When I am present, whatever life brings, I can respond with greater equanimity, acceptance, compassion, and creative possibility.

Meaning and Awareness

Meaning—especially emotional meaning—emerges through the relationship between figure and ground, a central Gestalt concept. Humans are meaning-making beings; this is how we integrate experience and make sense of our world.

The figure is whatever stands out in my present-centered awareness; the ground is everything else, including what I am not yet aware of. Awareness shifts naturally as new figures emerge from the ground.

Especially important are the meanings and patterns formed through trauma, loss, deprivation, emotional misattunement, neglect, or violation. Pain does not necessarily create pathology—it is the absence of attuned responsiveness to pain that leads to ongoing suffering.

What can be felt or known in any relationship depends on whether emotional experience feels supported, welcomed, and attuned with—or not. An attitude of openness and acceptance toward all experience is central to the Gestalt approach.

What can be felt or known in any relationship depends on whether emotional experience feels supported, welcomed, and attuned with—or not. An attitude of openness and acceptance toward all experience is central to the Gestalt approach.

Relational Gestalt Practice

Relational Gestalt Practice aims to increase awareness of our emotional and physical patterns by providing healthy relational experiences that support energy, aliveness, and contact.

Relational Gestalt Practice emphasizes the dynamic interplay between self and others, highlighting the importance of genuine contact and mutual influence in every interaction. T Gregory Bateson’s quote, “It takes two to know one,” highlights that knowledge of oneself is achieved through interaction and relationship with others. This concept underscores that self-awareness is not an isolated individual pursuit but emerges from social processes, where “others” provide the necessary “difference” that allows us to perceive our own unique qualities and attributes. Gestalt Practitioners focus on the present moment within relationships, exploring how personal history, current feelings, and patterns of relating come alive in the here and now. Through mindful presence and authentic dialogue, both reflector and initiator within the group co-create an environment where growth and healing become possible.

Working in this way involves awareness of body, breath, sensation, mood, emotion, thought, memory, and image. Through attuned relationships—particularly within group contexts—we can learn to become more attuned to ourselves and others, participating in a healing and supportive community.

The Meaning of Gestalt

The word Gestalt (German) means both “the whole”—something greater than the sum of its parts—and “the pattern.” This approach draws on both meanings, seeing people as integral parts of their environments—continually affecting and being affected by the people and events around them.